3 Ways: Stay True to You During the Holidays — Nina Zapala

Three ways to stay true to you this holiday season addresses ways to stay tuned in to yourself and rethink the holiday season beyond the hustle and bustle, shopping, and exhausting perfection.

How many of you look forward to the holidays? Do you find the season to be stressful or joyful? Some say I love the holidays, but they too are pleasing others, striving for perfection, or putting everybody else before themselves—an exhausting way to spend what I believe is a season of intention and reflection.

Interesting how the holidays are celebrated in the throws of the darker winter months in western countries. What if these celebrations are here to bring light to the dark days prompting us to reflect on what we are grateful for, to have faith in what is to come, to inspire us to be aware of who we really are, and ignite our childlike persona, helping us enjoy the season all the more.

What if?

The Cliff Notes

Before I go on if you prefer to watch a short video, click here for a Pinterest story or an Instagram reel. Or, if you’re a dedicated learner, a seeker who desires more, watch my 38-minute YouTube video. I’ll explore this topic in greater detail.

Want to learn how to stay inspired for your personality type this holiday season? Click here to schedule a guided session.

“What good is the warmth of summer, without the cold of winter to give it sweetness.”

John Steinbeck, American author, Travels with Charley: In Search of America

Holidays Festivities in Seasons of Low Light

Have you wondered why there are so many spiritual/religious holiday celebrations heading into the fall and winter months in western countries? Think about it. The sun shines a little less, leaving extended periods of darkness. Some say the winter seasons even cause mood disorders. Yet, look at how many celebrations occur during November, December, and even into January.

The month of November in the United States ushers in Thanksgiving and a slew of harvest festivals with the idea of giving thanks to Mother Nature for all SHE provides. And then we slide into December to celebrate the many religious holidays de jour: Kwanzaa, Christmas, Hanukkah, Noche Buena, and in January, the world celebrates New Year’s Day!

All of these holidays give us pause to look within, to find the light within us to bring about joy, peace, and harmony. Maybe this is the underlying reason for the season, to go within and see the light within ourselves and realize just how blessed we truly are. And yes, even in a pandemic, there is much to be grateful for and to give thanks.

“All phenomena — including bad weather — contribute to our experience of life. Don’t discriminate. Enjoy the adventure.”

Practicing Spirituality

1. Using an Advent Calendar To Stay True to You: A 5-minute Morning Routine

From the Latin word adventus, meaning “arrival” or “coming,” Advent is the time of year when we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. Yes, this screens of religious undertones, so if religion is not your thing and spirituality is, then take note. Why not use the advent calendar idea to begin or expand on a personal journey to Christ Consciousness by initiating a 5-minute morning routine? There is no better time of the year to start this practice. And honestly, during the craziness of the holidays, these readings will keep you grounded in what’s really important, seeing love in all there is.

A few suggestions. Visit your favorite bookstore or review them out online and see which one resonates. No matter the book you choose, you can embark on an awakening journey to Christ Consciousness. And the good thing about the suggestions below is you can read them in bite-size messages. Why wait for the new year to start or further your relationship with Divine Intelligence.

Obligations That Keeps You From Staying True To You

So why do we allow the propaganda of the season to put us in a stressful tailspin? Yet we all seem to succumb to the marketing tomfoolery that motives our actions this time of the year; shopping, travel, extravagant meals… All of these so-called to-dos rob us of our inner peace during this light-inspired season?

I don’t know about you, but I can count on my hands the Christmas gifts that I still cherish today? And guess what, four out of five were handmade! So we shop to what end — to fulfill some thoughtless cultural ritual?

Family traditions are grand, but if they’re not your cup of tea, why do we persist on them each year? Is it a lost memory you’re trying to retain? Or a conditioned belief that says this is the way to happiness. Here again, are we caught up in the propaganda of the season without giving our actions a second thought?

2. The Intention Behind The Reason for the Season

I ask you to question the intention behind the reason for each season?

Are you doing things to please someone else, or are you doing it because it’s near and dear to your heart? For example, if you’re not into a Thanksgiving spread of some 20 dishes, tell everyone you’re paring down this year. Thanksgiving will consist of a few of our family favorites. What if you don’t want to waste food, or your goal is healthy Thanksgiving? After years of preparing the Thanksgiving feast, you opt to skip the all-day kitchen duties. You now rather spend the day sharing and enjoying your family— skipping the food coma altogether. 🦃

Now would be a good idea to write down your intentions for the holiday season and share them with your loved ones. Be firm in your intentions, and let others know this is important to you, and of course, find out what’s important to them, and then compromise to meet everyone’s intentions as best you can.

When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.

Thích Nhất Hạnh

3. Ways To Remain True to You This Holiday Season

As we jump into the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, let’s slow down and remember the holidays are a reflection of your inner consciousness. So if we get triggered, frustrated, and angry, it’s time to stop and take a look at the trigger that’s surfacing. Explore it, feel it and heal it — a blog post that may help you understand further what’s triggering you.

3 Ways: To Protect Yourself For Another’s Negative Vibes!

- When someone is gossiping, don’t participate. You may even share a story about a friend who talked behind your back and how much it hurt you, and you’ve learned to share positive stories helping you to enjoy long-lasting relationships. If the gossip continues, say, I can’t and walk away. When you walk away, you leave their negative energy behind. WAHOO!

- When a family member is rude, politely excuse yourself. If they corner you again, say something nice about the event, shut the conversation down, and walk away.

- When someone tries to put you down, criticize you, or indirectly belittles you in the name of “your best interest,” stand firm. You know what you’re all about — this is a person mirroring their inner fears. Please don’t take what they say personality.

Honestly, if you’re an introvert and this is all too much, take a time out. Go for a walk. Sit outside or seek refuge in a friend, your partner, or have fun with your child or pet.

“Belonging so fully to yourself that you’re willing to stand alone is a wilderness-an untamed, unpredictable place of solitude and searching. It is a place as dangerous as it is breathtaking, a place as sought after as it is feared. The wilderness can often feel unholy because we can’t control it, or what people think about our choice of whether to venture into that vastness or not. But it turns out to be the place of true belonging, and it’s the bravest and most sacred place you will ever stand.”

Brené Brown author, Braving The Wildnerness

Want to Stay True To You: Reread these Blog Posts for Mental-Pick-Me-Up

Before heading out to your next holiday party, you may want to read the blog posts regarding owning your truth as extroverts and introverts. I wrote these blogs to inspire inner peace, flow, and harmony with life. Once you taste the freedom in knowing YOURSELF, the truth of who you really are. All of these trivial shenanigans don’t seem to matter anymore.

A popular blog post; How to be an Extrovert and Own Your Truth

Or if you’re introverted, this is the blog for you: How to be an Introvert and Own Your Truth

More About the Soul’s Role in Personality Typing©️

I hope you found 3 Ways To Remain True to You This Holiday Season eye-opening. I’m passionate and intentional about introducing the idea of personality tying with a spiritual understanding to help you find yourself.

The career personality typing model of the 1950s is fine. Yet, if we want to know who we are and find ourselves in a crazy world, we must tap into our Divine mind, which brings unlimited potential, happiness, and abundance into our lives.

Our higher self relies on a healthy personality to express our unique sacred stories, prompting us to take inspired action in all we do. Our higher self speaks through our persona — exuding joy, passion, and love.

You don’t need “anything” to live your truth. However, when you live your truth, you have all things!

Nina Zapala, author and a quote from my upcoming book, the Soul’s Role in Personality Typing©️

A Discovery of Personality Typing With a Spiritual Understanding

According to Psychology Today magazine, 93% of people want to change something about themselves. Which begs the question, why change yourself? Or, more importantly, how does changing yourself help you find yourself?

Do you realize you come from the MIND where ideas never end? Is it foolish to think we can create a better version of ourselves? If you come from the stars, what makes you think you can’t be a star? The Soul’s Role in Personality Typing©️ helps you understand yourself, helps you find yourself, and helps you realize your spark of Divinity within, which can lead you down an extraordinary, new life path.

Do you agree that critical decision-making skills are an absolute must in times of confusion, change, and chaos? The choices you make today can alter your tomorrows.

I’m sharing the liberating lessons and soul wisdom I learned going through my transitional 7-year life tsunami. — to guide you through your life transitions.

Are you’re ready to commit to fully knowing yourself? To live thoughtfully, question everything, and love completely.

You may not find this journey to be an easy one. Still, you will find it enriching, beyond your imagination, a fascinating discovery of personality typing with a spiritual understanding.

Join The Movement

Ready to find yourself? If so, I’d love to see you on YouTube, Pinterest, LinkedIn, or Instagram. The best way to feel part of this community is by subscribing to my email list.

It’s Time to Discover; The Soul’s Role in Personality Typing ©️ Nina Zapala, a Curious Type, ENTP. I’m a certified Myers-Briggs® instructor with an intuitive side ready to introduce you to a new paradigm in personality typing supported by a spiritual understanding.

Photo by Marianne Krohn on Unsplash

Originally published at https://www.ninazapala.com on November 17, 2021.




Rethinking Myers Briggs® With a Spiritual Understanding for Radical Self Acceptance. I’m a Guide. Seeker. Dog + Planet Lover. ninazapala.com.

Love podcasts or audiobooks? Learn on the go with our new app.

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store
Nina Zapala

Nina Zapala

Rethinking Myers Briggs® With a Spiritual Understanding for Radical Self Acceptance. I’m a Guide. Seeker. Dog + Planet Lover. ninazapala.com.

More from Medium

How to Discover your Purpose in Life.

How Tom MacDonald’s Controversial “Fake Woke” new single is the antidote for democracy…

Dear future you: How to reinvent your career with heart

We are what we can recall