Are Fears Scary Let’s Take a Closer Look — Nina Zapala

Are fears scary let’s take a closer look. Remember, as a kid Halloween was frightening and fun rolled into one. We dreamed of big bags of candy even though we knew scary things might happen to get the goods. Do you remember how we faced our fears as a child? Yes, we got scared. But we had bold confidence knowing that something sweet existed on that other side of the closed door. We faced our fears believing getting tricked was worth the treats awaiting us on the other side.


It’s not fear. It’s attached emotions. So is fear real? And is it even conscious?

Before I go on if you don’t have time to read the full post, no worries, click here for a recap, or if you prefer watching a short video, click here for a Pinterest story or an Instagram reel. If you’re a dedicated learner, a seeker who desires more, watch my 30-minute YouTube video as I explore this topic in great detail.

Want to learn more about the fears that are holding you back from becoming all you can be? Click here to schedule a guided session.

Let’s Take a Closer Look at Fears

Remember, as a three, four, or five-year-old child, even when you became anxious, you faced your anxiety head-on and walked through the haunted house or courageously knocked on the door of the scariest house in the neighborhood. You didn’t hesitate. Why?

Did you have fear and or anxiety? I believe we all did, but when you’re a child, you also have this wonderous knowing, a confidence in yourself. You see the world as a fantastic place and know deep in your heart you’re here for a reason. Superman and Superwomen had nothing on you. You weren’t afraid of not knowing because you were powerful, secure, and confident in who you are.

Until… parents and school systems began conditioning the superhero right out of you.

Trust me, I’m not dissing parents, hell I am one, and I’ve made countless mistakes with my son, nor am I dissing teachers. It’s the systems I question.

“Catch your children doing something right instead of doing something wrong. Remind them of their greatness on a daily basis.”

Wayne Dyer — American Author and Motivational Speaker

We Are Conditioned to Compete

As schoolchildren, we were conditioned and instructed through predetermined systems to be part of the system. We’re taught to be who we are through examinations and competitions. These instructions onto themselves are anxiety-producing and fear-engineered. If I don’t get a good grade, I’m a loser, dumb, not good enough.

What if I don’t get picked?

Come on, who hasn’t felt panic and humiliation standing there, the last person chosen for a sports activity. Geez, I remember cheerleading tryouts and getting on the second string. I felt horrible. I wasn’t on the first string, so I must not be good enough. OMG, I’m not a cheerleading type-o-gal. Yet, I changed, becoming fearful in the process, thinking I’d never fit in. Which, by the way, I never really did!

Can you see how fear becomes an attachment to a feeling, an emotion?

We trust the same people who teach us to doubt ourselves. We don’t question the idea of competing to win at all costs. Instead, we strive to be a student of the GRIND, not a student of the Divine MIND!

Whenever there is a reaching down into innermost experience, into the nucleus of personality, most people are overcome by fear and many run away. . . The risk of inner experience, the adventure of the spirit, is in any case alien to most human beings. The possibility that such experience might have psychic reality is anathema to them.

Carl Jung, a Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst who founded analytical psychology.

Are Fears Scary — Here’s Why

For me, and I believe for many of us, fear is caused by 100’s of different emotions, doubts, guilt, unworthiness, shame, and false beliefs; those inherited, troubling thoughts we absorbed without question in childhood, in school, and continue to embrace well into adulthood.

If you take a closer look, you will realize fears are mere triggers, unhealthy and unconscious aspects of your personality traits.

These fears aren’t new. They’ve been around for centuries. Many sages have been pondering solutions to overcome fear and anxiety, offering a plethora of answers yet finding no proven solutions.

I may know why?

The solution is up to us. No sage, guru, scientist, or savant can genuinely understand you — you’re one of a kind. It makes sense to me that no one person can find solutions to your problems. You are the SOULUTION”

What is the soulution?

It’s a healthy personality type, one that serves your higher SELF.

Don’t let fear take over your decisions but decide that there shall be no diversions from you taking an alternate route….

Hermann J. Steinherr

Are Fears Unhealthy Emotions?

The soulution starts with an understanding of your physical senses, found within your personality traits. Within each trait are healthy and unhealthy emotions, values, and beliefs — fear lives in the undesirable aspects of SELF, often unconscious.

Let’s use me as an example. I am in middle school trying out for the cheerleading squad — if I’m not a cheerleader, I won’t fit in. So I took action based on a fear of not belonging. Many school systems, private or public, seem to glorify those involved in sports activities, so of course, I tried to become a cheerleader. Who doesn’t want glory?

I was taught to believe being a cheerleader was the right path for me—false belief appearing real.

Can you start to see how the unwanted emotions of fear pushed me into an uninspired action — a low vibrational emotion birthed a fearful action.

Is it fair to say disruptive feelings often power fear? If we look deeper, can we identify the unhealthy emotion as false?

For me, trying out for the cheerleading team was prompted by a feeling of not belonging, which invited a fear-based reaction, tryouts! OMG, I know this is crazy, right.

How many of us take daily actions based on fear?

F.E.A.R — False. Evidence. Appearing. Real.

Origin Unknown

Is Fear Real?

Is fear real? Well, yes and no. Fear is real, as many of us respond to it daily, but your fears are deep-seated, unconscious, and often initiated by false beliefs. Let’s take a closer look.

My Essential Self, my primary personality trait, aka main physical sense, is extroverted intuition, which is all about novelty, possibilities, unconventional… OMG, cheerleading is uber conventional contrary to my Essential Self. So I trusted the “system” and ignored my Essential Self, forcing myself to belong to something contrary to myself. OMG. Fear’s real and false!

How many of us have been programmed to believe we are something we aren’t. I’m sure my example isn’t much different from yours. My 9th-grade art teacher told me, “Nina, I see the pain in your eyes as you try and navigate high school, just know when you’re finished here, the world will open up for you.” WOW. See teacher’s rule. It’s the system I question.

We’re taught to believe our physicalness holds all of the answers to life’s questions — another false belief. Just look at the world. How can you possibly find answers in chaos, fear, and confusion? Oh, you’ll get answers, answers filled with chaos, fear, and confusion — which leads to more chaos, fear, and confusion. And we wonder why we’re stuck!

It’s why I’m passionate about personality typing with a spiritual understanding to find YOU. We need to shift the way we live in the world. Our first priority is to tap into our Divine mind, a MIND which guides our physical mind in service of our highest SELF. This new thought theory is the wisdom I gained based on personal experiences going through my 7-year life tsunami, traumas, and transitions.

The Enemy is Fear. We Think it is Hate; but it is Fear.

Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi was an Indian lawyer, anti-colonial nationalist and political ethicist.

A New Theory On Personality Typing

When we solely use our physical senses, we rely on what we know, what we’ve been taught, aka our past conditioning based on fear and ego. The physical senses rely on the contrasts of the external world, which blocks serenity, our peace of mind, and the eternal knowing we’re always provided for.

For most of us, we believe the exact opposite of serenity. Instead, we see the unknown as a big, scary place — one we are not to explore. For a while, these false beliefs seem to work, but as time goes on, most of us start to question;

Why am I here?

Who am I?

What’s my purpose?

Is this why so many of us want to change something about ourselves, reported from Psychology Today.

Why Your Spiritual Senses Must Lead Your Life

A closer look.

What are your spiritual senses?

Spiritual senses are intuition, gut instincts, serendipitous moments, and illogical happenings that reap great rewards. In essence, the spiritual senses are in tune with the whispers from your higher self — the Divine mind; Universal energy, the unlimited potential of all there IS.

Do we all have spiritual senses?

Yes, everyone on the planet has spiritual and physical senses. Yet who teaches us to see ourselves as powerful spiritual beings. Our spiritual and physical senses work hand in hand when aligned properly.

Can you imagine how different life would be if you lead with the unlimited potential of all there IS versus competing, examining, and comparing yourself to what is, what was, or others?

Most of us think we’re limited — an untruth and in total contrast with our spiritual self’s limitless potential. Just another reason why I believe so many of us want to change ourselves. Because there’s a deep stirring within that whispers, we are more than what’s been taught. The idea of changing ourselves is another false belief. We don’t need to change ourselves. We need to find ourselves.

The idea behind the Soul’s Role in Personality Typing is to encourage you to find yourself, not change yourself. Devine design gifted you with a personality type that is in alignment with your soul’s mission. I’m 1000% serious when I say this. We are all here to evolve and grow, to develop our Divine consciousness. Period. How you do this, the life paths you take, and the people you meet along the way are all part of the journey. . It’s your life’s “SOULUTION.”

Serenity Card Meaning — You are moving into a time of greater inner peace and tranquility.*

Doreen Virtue — Healing with the Angels Oracle Cards

3 Ways to Face Scary Fears Head On Like a Child

I believe one of the best ways to overcome our scary fears is to face them head-on as we did as a child. As adults, we become stuck as our fears are unconscious, hidden deep within our persona. They’ve become a part of who we think we are. Yet, I believe there is a way to recognize your fears — it’s through triggers. I talk about triggers while on vacation but understand triggers are with us 24/7 — no matter where, with you, or when.

Journal Prompts to Help you Face Scary Fears:

* To face your fear head-on, ask yourself: What am I afraid of? Why am I afraid of it? What is the worst that can happen? Get into the emotions of the fear. Spend time with these questions and go back as many times as needed.

* Appreciate your courage. Every time you focus on your Essential Self, the most vital, most essential part of you, the journey to overcome fear and anxiety becomes easier and shorter.

* Be your own best friend. Be kind to yourself. Love yourself. When you are talking to yourself, give yourself praise, be encouraging, trust your higher self. Become the very person you admire and respect. Take a day and track your conversation with yourself — are you a good friend or a nasty one?

When I become fearful, confusion becomes my reality. I put on my sneaks and head out for a meditative walk. As I walk, I say prayers in gratitude for all there is; the sun that warms me, the giant oak trees that bring shade and help me breathe, the cherished moments I spend with Oliver, my brown rescued poodle… I stay in the moment, realizing I’m a part of all there is, which helps me relax, gain clarity, and the courage to take a few baby steps toward my fears.

I then use meditation to understand and realize I’m an essential part of all their IS. This action lets me pivot so I can begin again. Please do your research and pick a method that works for your personality type. I cover the best spiritual practices for each of the 16 personalities in my upcoming book, the Soul’s Role in Personality Typing©️, which I hope to have published by Christmas. Fingers crossed.

More About the Soul’s Role in Personality Typing

I hope you found Are Fears Scary Let’s Take a Closer Look eye-opening. I’m passionate and intentional about introducing the idea of personality tying with a spiritual understanding to help you find yourself.

The career personality typing model of the 1950s is fine. Yet, if we want to know who we are and find ourselves in a crazy world, we must tap into our Divine mind, which brings unlimited potential, happiness, and abundance into our lives.

Our higher self relies on a healthy personality to express our unique sacred stories, prompting us to take inspired action in all we do. Our higher self speaks through our persona — exuding joy, passion, and love.

Don’t Change Yourself. Find Your SELF.

Nina Zapala, Founder the Soul’s Role in Personality Typing.

A Discovery of Personality Typing With a Spiritual Understanding

According to Psychology Today magazine, 93% of people want to change something about themselves. Which begs the question, why change yourself? Or, more importantly, how does changing yourself help you find yourself?

Do you realize you come from the MIND where ideas never end? Is it foolish to think we can create a better version of ourselves? If you come from the stars, what makes you think you can’t be a star?

The Soul’s Role in Personality Typing©️ helps you understand yourself, helps you find yourself, and helps you realize the Divine Mind, which can lead you down an extraordinary, new life path.

Do you agree that critical decision-making skills are an absolute must in times of confusion, change, and chaos? The choices you make today can alter your tomorrows.

I’m sharing the liberating lessons and soul wisdom I learned going through my transitional 7-year life tsunami. — to guide you through your life transitions.

Are you’re ready to commit to fully knowing yourself? To live thoughtfully, question everything, and love completely.

You may not find this journey to be an easy one. Still, you will find it enriching, beyond your imagination, a fascinating discovery of personality typing with a spiritual understanding.

Join The Movement

Ready to find yourself? If so, I’d love to see you on YouTube, Pinterest, LinkedIn, or Instagram. The best way to feel part of this community is by subscribing to my email list.

It’s Time to Discover; The Soul’s Role in Personality Typing ©️ Nina Zapala, a Curious personality, ENTP.

* Please note, I use Doreen Virtue’s angel card as a tool to help me communicate with my higher self. I do not call upon angles to ask for stuff. I only call on angels for guidance, protection, and wisdom.

Photo Credit: Pixabay Luis Navas

Originally published at on October 27, 2021.




Don’t Change Yourself. Find Yourself. Discover the Soul’s Role in Personality Typing. Guide. Seeker. Dog + Planet Lover.

Love podcasts or audiobooks? Learn on the go with our new app.

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store
Nina Zapala

Nina Zapala

Don’t Change Yourself. Find Yourself. Discover the Soul’s Role in Personality Typing. Guide. Seeker. Dog + Planet Lover.

More from Medium

Connection Matters — FITTEAM

Feel left behind in Love? “Will I ever find one?”

Why your lizard brain is holding you back

Why I’m Creating a Roadmap for Our Worst Emotions