How to remove the external layers of fear from your persona, speaks to who we’ve become within the constructs of fear and ego. For many of us, the answer to this question is revealed in your primary personality trait, the Essential Self. First, you need to unravel your ambitions, passions, and grand desires of who you think you need to be.
Removing the External Layers of Fear from My Persona
In life, we come to realize these grand designs aren’t even close to what is ripening within. I know this to be true. More than 7 years ago, I stood on stage waiting to receive one of the most prestigious awards in hospitality; a platinum award from the Hospitality Sales and Marketing Association International. As I stood on stage, I felt my insides turn to goop. Instead of being ecstatic, I was getting ill. Mind you I was proud of my work, but the feeling coming over me was a deep, sinking feeling that something was terribly wrong.
That night I stood on stage and said a three-word prayer, “God Show Me.”
Boy was I shown.
You must learn to get in touch with the innermost essence of your being. This true essence is beyond the ego. It is fearless; it is free; it is immune to criticism; it does not fear any challenge. It is beneath no one, superior to no one, and full of magic, mystery, and enchantment.
Deepak Chopra, author; The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success
Layers of Fear from My Persona Were Pouring Forth
Soon after I received this award, my prayer was answered with a 7-year life tsunami. My fears, false beliefs, and unhealthiness poured forth with such ferocity, that it forever changed, my life.
Like a piece of fruit, our exterior needs to be peeled away to get to the nourishing benefits that lie within. When we remain unconscious, our outer selves, while protecting us to a degree, become rigid, and unconscious to aspects of ourselves that need nourishment to flourish.
This is exactly what happened to me. For decades I paid no attention to what my Divinely inspired personality and my true Self were trying to tell me. No, I was stubbornly being driven by blind ambition, and a big ego, while numbing my fears, with shopping, busyness, alcohol… all the while believing if I could just win an international award, I would become best in class. This myopic assumption made me think, an award could validate me.
It didn’t. Winning the award made me realize, I was not living my truth. The good news is my prayer helped me peel back deeply held fears, unwanted behaviors and beliefs, to reveal my glorious inner self, my true Self.
Shedding your fears and ego puts you on the path to your true Self, that’s where clarity, confidence, and courage arise. Your true Self is your POWER!
When we Realize that our True Self is one of Pure Potentiality, we Align with the Power that Manifests Everything in the Universe.
- Hymn of Creation, The Rig Veda
Why Look Externally When the Nourishment of Life is Within
I like so many others, was looking for an external thing(s) to validate my life. Awards, fancy cars, jewelry (well I still love jewelry) clothes…which I couldn’t get enough of because I was looking outwardly to find fulfillment.
What I’ve come to learn is ego power is false power. It lasts only as long as the object of desire is present. For example a certain title, or lots of money. What happens when the power or money goes away? You lose, what you perceive to be your power, the validation of who you are.
I know this to be true as I stood on stage, gifted with a prestigious award, I asked myself now what? In all honesty, who or what I thought I was, had begun to unravel. Over time and after great reflection I realized the award was a symbol. It revealed a role I had been playing; seeking validation and love from “doing me” instead of “being me.”
The wisdom in all this is when you know your true Self, it can never be taken away. Money comes and goes; as do relationships, titles, roles we play… What always remains the same is the truth of who you really are. Now that is power!
Your true Self is your POWER!
How To Begin Revealing Unhealthy Layers Around Your Persona
Since I can’t go into each trait here, I will give you a short summary to help you find answers.
When your primary trait, the trait you use the most, is controlling all other traits you are operating from fear and ego. And when you dig deeper within the trait, you’ll find the trait “indicates” undesirable behaviors; fears, which cause you’ve to become uncharacteristically you. Boy, I’m familiar with this behavior.
What happens over time is we’ve conditioned ourselves to become something we are not.
Going back to the fruit example. Sometimes when you cut open a piece of fruit it’s beautiful, juicy, and nourishing. Yet there are other times your cut open a piece of fruit and it’s spoiled rotten. The reason being, the protective skin, has become rigid, and inflexible, no longer able to absorb beneficial nutrients.
This is exactly what happens to all of us. We safeguard ourselves, often building a protective skin based on what has been conditioned into us. We tell ourselves if we want love, respect, worth… we must do this, be this, act like this. All of which are external actions, fear or ego-based, keeping us busy doing, instead of facing nourishing and growing into our fears in stillness and beingness.
The Answer To Reveal Unhealthy Layers Around Your Persona
As always answering life questions comes back to a healthy, Divinely inspired personality type with a spiritual understanding. With decades of studying typology along with the wisdom gained from my 7-year life tsunami, plus client case studies, I’ve come to know our fears and ego stems from out-o-wack personality traits.
If you want to reveal the unhealthy layers around your persona, aka your personality type, start with dissecting your primary trait, your Essential Self. I promise you, you will find the answers within this trait. It was Divinely designed with you in mind.
Ok, let’s get you started on your journey with a journal prompt.
Grab A Journal: Get Ready to Remove External Layers Of Fear From Your Persona?
It’s time to grab your journal and start to rethink the many roles you play?
First ask yourself, what is the achievement I hope to gain from the role; entrepreneur, parent, partner…
What is the achievement outcome; money, ambitions, love, power, fame, control…the list is long. Whatever the achievement outcome is, this is the place to start.
Ask yourself, Why? Within the answer is an unmet need, a fear, or a condition you were taught somewhere along your life path journey that may need healing.
I’ll use myself as an example. My blind ambition led me to win an award fueled by a fear of never being good enough. If I belonged to the platinum award-winning group, I’ll know I’m good. Obviously, this was a false belief stemming from conditioned childhood teachings, and my unhealthy Essential Self, extroverted intuition. When unbalanced this trait consistently obsesses over new opportunities, oblivious to outcomes, or without consulting my true Self. A recipe for disaster.
Let me also point out that this realization took years to peel away! Finding your true Self takes work and is a lifelong process but it sure is worth it!
More About the Soul’s Role in Personality Typing
I hope you found How To Remove External Layers Of Fear From Your Persona eye-opening. I’m passionate about introducing the idea of personality tying with a spiritual understanding.
The career personality typing model of the 1950s is fine, yet I believe as we awaken to our spiritual needs, we must incorporate the gifts of a healthy personality type to support our spiritual selves. When our physical and spiritual selves are in union we express our soul intentions through our persona, taking Divinely inspired action in all we do. Ahh, the True Self in action. The True Self will always be with you, exuding joy, passion, and purpose.
Are you going through a life transition? Becoming a parent, empty nester, going through a divorce, or major career change? Mastering your spiritual personality will give you the clarity, confidence, and courage to guide you into your next life chapter.
- Nina Zapala, founder: The Soul’s Role in Personality Typing©️
Are You Entering or Going Through Life Transition?
These are times of great chaos and evolution, a time when critical decision-making skills can positively alter the course of your life. It’s not the time to rely on someone else’s opinion. If you do, then they become the author of your impending new life. If you want to be the author of your next life chapter, you need to be fully in charge and capable of seeing yourself from your True Self.
I know this to be true. I experienced a major transition during my 7-year life tsunami. It was during this time I mastered my spiritual personality type, which took me through many life transitions; divorce, relocation, career change, single parenthood… It was a life-saving SOULUTION I didn’t even know I needed, but boy did I ever!
You Are Not Alone
Are you asking yourself these questions; “Who Am I?” “How did I get here?” “Why Am I Here?” “What Are My Dreams and Desires?” Know you are not alone 93%of people desire to change something about themselves?
Why would you want to change what the Creator intended for you? Your personality type can help you find answers during times of great challenge struggle, and pain, and the joy, growth, and gifts you are here to share with the world.
I say Don’t Change Yourself. Find Yourself.
I’m here for you. To walk you through major life transitions.
To guide you into creating a life beyond your wildest dreams. A big bold, juicy life ⏤ legacy living!
Are you ready to identify your spiritually inspired personality type to bring about clarity, courage, and confidence? I believe in you, and know your next life chapter is going to be more beautiful than you can imagine.
Learn How to Master Your Spiritual Personality Type?
Let me introduce you to the Soul’s Role In Personality Typing ©️. Its personality typing with a spiritual understanding. If you want to live life from the True Self, master your personality type. Become intimate with all of your traits, and the dualistic sides of them as well. If you don’t fully understand your personality, how can you make smart decisions or decide what is best for you? You can’t and won’t!
How, you ask?
I provide resources using your personality type traits infused with spiritual know-how to help you clarify who you really are, which leads to enlightened living, full of meaning, and fulfillment.
I’m also here to share the liberating lessons I learned going through my transitional 7-year life tsunami to help guide you through yours. So what are you waiting for? It’s time.
Note: I’m a certified Myers-Briggs® instructor with an intuitive side and ready to introduce you to a new paradigm in personality typing supported by a spiritual understanding.
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It’s Time to Discover; The Soul’s Role in Personality Typing ©️ — Nina Zapala, a Curious Type, ENTP.
Originally published at https://www.ninazapala.com on August 13, 2021.