How to Use Personality Preferences to Build Trust — Nina Zapala

8 min readOct 7, 2021

How to use personality preferences to build trust is another step on the path of finding your true SELF.

What is trust, and why is it so important?

Trust is a reliance or confidence, a firm belief in another’s character, an unseen value between two people or within a culture. Today, trust is being examined by millions of us. People from around the world are questioning government agencies, medical systems, religious communities…

So, who do you trust? A quick answer, yourself!

I’m addressing this topic as I’ve been struggling with a trust issue. Funny, I received an answer from my inner spark of Divine Intelligence, yet I still find myself questioning.

Has this ever happened to you? You get a message and then make up every excuse in the world as to why it won’t work. Honestly, I feel we all practice this behavior, and I believe trust in yourself is an escalating issue.

Struggle found me because I’ve veered off the path of my true SELF, not living my truth. Truth doesn’t waver. It’s reliable, never changing, and can always be trusted. If you don’t know your truth, how can you trust? You’ve not defined your idea of trust.

Personality Preferences Play A Huge Role in Building Trust

I’ve learned over the years when something is trigging me, look to your personality for the answer. Since the issue of trust is often based around a decision, I went to the judging preferences of feeling and thinking these traits help us make decisions.

Ahh, I hit the jackpot. I’ve been struggling with my extroverted thinking (Ti) trait, realizing it’s not in sync with my Essential Self, extroverted intuition (Ne).

Funny enough, the answered I received came from the realm of non-physical, the spark of Divine within — beyond the physical world of five senses. It’s a realm where the magic and mysteries of life unfold — the spiritual world of the unseen.

My thinking trait is focused on the physical world of logic — (Ti), which can be skeptical and logical, pushing me to believe an idea or action is impractical.

Can you begin to see how struggle could manifest in this situation?

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Definition of trust: A reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something or one in which confidence is placed. –Merriam Webster’s Dictionary

Trust Begins By Knowing Yourself?

I believe the only way you can trust yourself or others begins with knowing your true SELF. You’re confident and clear about your intended desires instead of relying on your conditioned self.

There is a Big Distinction Between the True SELF and the Conditioned Self.

My definition of the true SELF is a fearless personality type, co-creating with your soul SELF allowing Divine Intelligence to express inspired actions through your physical reality, aka your personality. Ahh, the true SELF in action; it exudes joy, passion, and purpose.
The conditioned self is the smaller self, less powerful, and highly engaged with the physical world. This self seeks external validations as a way to define yourself. We are taught to ride the hamster wheel of life, get good grades, go to university, pick a career, find a soul mate, love, start a family, work hard, retire, and die — without questioning any of it.

If you rely on the external world to built trust, who are you putting your trust in? An institution, system, or industry. The time is now to begin questioning who you believe is trustworthy. My intention is that after you read this post, you’ll start to realize that trusting yourself is the way to the true SELF.

And please, don’t blame yourself or feel guilty that you’ve trusted an untrustworthy system. We’ve all been led to believe otherwise.

Trust in yourself. Your perceptions are often far more accurate than you are willing to believe. — Claudia Black, Australian Actor

How to Use Your Personality Preferences to Build Trust

Every personality is assigned four preferences, according to Myers-Briggs©️ , which create one of the 16 personality types. Each preference indicates certain behaviors and characteristics. What I am focusing on are the decision-making traits of feeling and thinking.

I believe trusting yourself is often a result of many small decisions accumulating in positive outcomes over time. Yes, of course, we hit bumps along the road. Fear and ego are always present, ready to teach us life lessons. Hopefully, we learn our lessons, dust ourselves off, start making a new decision, and take a new course of action.

Are you familiar with your decision-making trait? Have you explored this trait and how it works in your life? If not, you’re not alone. I believe many people take their personality type for granted, and many more don’t even know what their type is!

Not preaching, just saying your personality type is foundational to everything you do in life. Without this knowledge trusting yourself can become an issue. What ends up happening is we fall prey to conditioned beliefs. When I look out in the world and see how unhappy many of us are, I’d say this programmed way isn’t working.

If you don’t know your judging traits, trusting yourself becomes elusive. — the Soul’s Role in Personality Typing©️, founder, Nina Zapala

Your Judging Traits Are a Gateway to Trusting Yourself

Carl Jung, a Swiss psychologist and a pioneer in typology, classified thinking and feeling as judging functions. These functions critique, evaluate, help you make decisions, and draw conclusions regarding new information we’ve gathered.

I believe these functions play a dynamic role in trusting ourselves and others? We must first understand how they work in our lives, but that’s not enough. A spiritual practice to know what triggers these functions into unhealthy states is also required to become truly knowledgeable about who you really are.

Let’s explore judging traits.

Introverted Feeling (Fi)

Personality types with a (Fi) trait tend to be highly invested in the well-being of a select few and without attachment to the emotional harmony of a group. This trait helps you define your authenticity, self-understanding, self-direction, and individuality to inform your views.

This preference is inward in nature. It’s about personal uniqueness. A #trusttrigger may arise when you are prompted to go against a value that question’s your image of authenticity.

A trigger may arise in situations where you feel someone is superficial and insincere. These judgments may be accurate, but if you evaluate information from your perspective only, you will see the world from a very narrow viewpoint, ignoring the individuality of others, which goes against your core beliefs. A struggle of trust is likely.

Breathwork may be very useful. It can give you the time-out you need when making a decision. If you need longer, ask for it.

Extroverted Feeling (Fe)

The innate gift of (Fe) is the ability to read and restore another’s emotional state. A capability to help you establish harmony and mutual understandings with others to get everyone on the same emotional page.

Outward in nature, this trait isn’t inclined to look within. With that said, you rarely take time to examine your feelings, becoming self-sacrificing.

A #trusttrigger can arise if you receive a message to take action for yourself, which is counterintuitive as your passion is to take action for the well-being of others.

A spiritual practice of reflection, journaling, and meditating would be beneficial to help you realize that it’s OK to put yourself first every once in a while.

“Trust starts with truth and ends with truth.” –Dr. Santosh Kalwar, Author Writer Poet

Introverted Thinking (Ti)

A (Ti) judging function is inward-facing. It helps you rationalize and understand conceptual ideas to redefine personal strategies and theories. A trait that is skeptical, self-regulating, and optimizing craving independence and autonomy.

In my example, I received a message to take a specific action. A #trusttrigger arose as I began fearing the loss of my autonomy — a conditioned response. Another message revealed if I can’t trust an answer from, Divinely Intelligence how can I trust anything in life, myself included.

A spiritual practice that I use daily is meditative walking and spiritual readings to help me get out of my head and align with the true SELF.

Extroverted Thinking (Te)

A personality with a (Te) function is highly logical, a numbers wizard who uses rationality to make systems efficient. A left-brained individual for sure.

Extroverted thinking (Te) is an outward trait, excelling at standardizing and optimizing systems and technology. Decision-making allows you to qualify systems applying research and facts to gain understandings.

#Trusttriggers will naturally arise when research, facts, and numbers are removed from the decision-making process. In these situations, trusting yourself becomes difficult.

Individuals with this trait will find a stillness practice especially useful. You’ll need to go within to review your inner world of research. A question to ponder, will you draw upon information from your storehouse of knowledge, or will you allow another to add to your existing body of research? None of us live in a world of only our own doings-a reminder to trust yourself in this knowing.

You can benefit greatly from reflecting on another’s contribution so before you deem it unworthy, gather with others for discussion — a beautiful way to expand your (Te) trait.

Can You Now Understand How Personality Preferences Help You Build Trust?

More About the Soul’s Role in Personality Typing

I hope you found How to Use Personality Preferences to Build Trust eye-opening. I’m passionate and intentional about introducing the idea of personality tying with a spiritual understanding to help you awaken to your true SELF.

The career personality typing model of the 1950s is fine. Yet, as we awaken to our spiritual needs, we must use the gifts of a childlike personality, fearless, pure, and healthy to support our spiritual Self.

The spiritual aspect of Self uses a healthy persona to express trademark soul intentions, prompting us to take Divinely inspired action in all we do. Ahh, the true SELF in action; it’s with you always exuding joy, passion, and purpose.

I say Don’t Change Yourself. Find Your SELF.

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